Definitely Maybe,...

On the bus to the London airport the ad of the upcoming movie „Definitely Maybe“ kind of struck me. “Definitely Maybe”…, a paradox wording… Perhaps it struck me because lately I’ve been dealing with people who are uncertain about things going on in their lives and don’t know how to deal with it. I heard someone say that people only - or in most cases - suffer when they don’t know what they really want. That probably makes sense. Life seems to be easier when you definitely know what you want and what you’re aiming at. Taking decisions might be the right solution to get rid of doubts. For, being uncertain creates confusion in our minds, which again makes it harder to make a decision. A “circulum virtuosum”.
However, most of us don’t know that the decision is already taken very early by our brain. A marketing researcher in our company held a presentation about how the brain works in relation to TV commercials and other types of advertisement. Our brain knows definitely what we want within a few seconds. In love matters psychologists say that we decide within the first 10 minutes (or less?) whether we like the person or not. I assume it’s the same with events that take place later in relationships which, often too late, have correspondent consequences.
When we doubt something, we shouldn’t torture ourselves with thinking about the pros and cons. Very often the answer lies already IN the doubt. Very often, when questioning something, the solution is connected with pain. Because making a decision implies losing something else.
On the other hand, the word “chance” wasn’t invented for nothing. Maybe we do have a chance to solve problems without drastic change? Maybe there is a way back? Maybe we can safe the situation without having to give up something or someone? Maybe we just need someone who makes us stop doubting, who reassures us, who helps us see things clearly?

Is the "maybe" really so "definite" in fact?

I actually don’t know what the above mentioned movie really is about. Maybe it’s about doubts in love stories? Pretty sure it is… I think I guessed this one right ;-)

Me - Cristina